When “Not Enough” Became the Story, And How We Rewrite It
Hey Friend,
There was a long season in my life where I quietly believed I was not enough. Not successful enough, not attractive enough, not calm enough, not healed enough, not accomplished enough, not spiritual enough, not far enough ahead. I looked strong on the outside, yet internally, there were moments where I still felt like I was trying to catch up to a version of myself that did not exist yet.
I know many of you know that feeling, the silent pressure to become something more before you are allowed to rest, to feel proud, to feel loved, or to feel at peace. I remember being the girl who felt too emotional, too aware, too sensitive to the energy in every room. I remember feeling like I had to work harder than everyone else to feel like I belonged. I collected degrees, certifications, and accomplishments, built businesses, wrote books, and led programs, yet there were quiet moments when the old voice would whisper, “You should be further by now.”
That is the part people do not talk about enough. High achievers often carry the deepest “not enough” wounds because performance can temporarily silence the insecurity, but it does not always heal it. Then I began sitting with clients every week, hearing the same story told through different lives, different ages, different backgrounds, yet the same core belief underneath.
The stay-at-home mother who felt she was not enough because she was not earning an income.
The corporate executive who felt she was not enough because she was not home enough.
The single man who believed he was not enough because he had not yet built the life he imagined.
The woman who stayed too long in relationships because she believed love had to be earned.
The teenager compares themselves to filtered lives online, believing everyone else is ahead.
The entrepreneur is succeeding publicly, yet privately feels like an imposter.
The healer who believed they had to be perfectly healed before helping anyone else.
The partner who believed that if they were “better,” someone would finally stay.
The adult child is still trying to earn approval that they never consistently received growing up.
Every stage of life has a system that quietly teaches you that you are lacking. Marketing depends on it. Social media amplifies it. Family conditioning often passes it down. Trauma wiring reinforces it by teaching the nervous system that worth equals performance, pleasing, achieving, or shrinking to stay safe. The world often benefits when you believe you are not enough, because people who feel incomplete are easier to sell to, easier to control, and less likely to step fully into their voice, their power, and their purpose.
But here is what I have witnessed thousands of times in therapy rooms, breathwork journeys, retreats, and healing spaces. The greatest transformation a human being can experience is the moment they begin to love themselves. Not the loud, performative kind of self-love, but the quiet kind. The kind where they stop abandoning themselves to keep others comfortable. The kind where they stop negotiating their worth. The kind where they finally feel safe in their own body. The kind where they begin making decisions from alignment instead of fear.
There is nothing more sacred than watching someone’s nervous system soften, their breathing slow, their shoulders drop, and hearing them say, “I think I’m finally starting to feel enough.” I have watched people who spent decades feeling broken suddenly experience compassion for themselves. I have watched people release generational beliefs that told them they had to struggle to deserve happiness. I have watched individuals who were convinced they were “too much” finally realize they were never too much; they were simply in environments that could not hold their depth.
The truth is, healing is not becoming someone new. Healing is removing everything that convinced you that you were not already whole. You were never meant to spend your life proving your worth. You were meant to experience it, embody it, and live from it. And sometimes the bravest step in healing is not changing everything at once; it is simply beginning to treat yourself with the same compassion you offer everyone else.
This month, we are intentionally holding spaces dedicated to self-love, self-worth, and reconnecting to the truth that you are already enough. Each experience this month was intentionally selected because the “not enough” belief does not live only in the mind; it lives in the subconscious programming, the nervous system, and often within generational emotional patterns. The Self Love & Feeling Enough journey helps reconnect you to your internal worth. Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind supports releasing outdated beliefs that were never truly yours, the Nervous System Reset allows the body to experience safety again, and Healing Generational Trauma helps clear inherited emotional patterns that quietly shape how we see ourselves. When these layers are addressed together, people do not just think they are enough; they begin to feel it in their body, their choices, and their daily life.
Upcoming Sessions
February 11th, 6:00-8:00 pm
“Self Love & Feeling Enough” 9D Journey
Location: Online | Energy Exchange $40.00
February 11th, 8:00-10:00 pm
“Reprogramming The Subconscious Mind” 9D Journey
Location: Online | Energy Exchange $40.00
February 21st, 6:00-9:00 pm
“You Are Enough” 9D Journey & 9D Sound Bath
Location: Exhale817, Fort Worth | Energy Exchange $90.00
February 22nd, 3:00-6:00 pm
”Full Nervous System Reset” 9D Journey
with Cold Plunge or Salt Float Tank Experience
Location: Altered States Wellness Richardson | Energy Exchange $111.00
February 28th, 1:00-4:00 pm
“Healing Generational Trauma” 9D Journey & 9D Sound Bath
Location: More Than Yoga Plano | Energy Exchange $90.00
You do not need to become more worthy before you begin healing.
You begin healing the moment you remember you already are enough.
With so much love,
Dr. Rachel Sims & Mama Lisa
Breath by Design
